Dating yard signs
When thinking about activities you’d like to do with a romantic interest, sex rarely makes the list.You might not catch the punchline to a dirty joke, because you’re not operating in that frame of reference.A handful of things bunched together during one summer might have just been a phase.But here, in event after encounter after situation, consistently, for close to 20 years since the start of puberty, there was something And on and on the list went.
This is the one that finally tipped me over the edge.
As the conversation went on, it became apparent that I was focused on the wrong thing, that it wasn’t meant to be about the impossible and/or uncomfortable contortions required to make the scene believable, it was meant to be about the sex. I’ll often find things odd about scenes in movies or TV shows and try to sort out the problems afterward.
What was weird is that at no point in the conversation did I ever think anything like “Oh hey, sex! ” I realized that I never really did think that way. One or two things over the years might have just been a fluke.
When other people start talking about sex, you have to take a second to remember that other people think about that sort of thing.
When you hear that old statistic that people think about sex every seven seconds, you only think about how wrong that statistic is.If you told an asexual person that they couldn’t have sex for ten years, their response will often be something along the lines of “Okay, whatever.” If you told a non-asexual person that, their response will often be something along the lines of “That’s impossible! ” (And again, not universally speaking.) I’ve felt this way before.